Internet Bullies and A Denim Jumpsuit
What is it about social media that gives people the courage to voice a harsh opinion without any regard to the person in the image? I never understood why people felt the need to critique influencers or other people on the internet visibly for all to see. I see a lot of cruel comments on social media but I had yet to fall victim to internet bullying. That is until recently. I was pretty excited to share these images of this crazy good denim jumpsuit from Abercrombie & Fitch. I loved the lip color I had on and just the overall vibe of the photos (thanks to Beckley & Co.). So imagine my excitement when Abercrombie actually regrammed my image. I was ecstatic!
But someone on the internet didn’t share the same sentiment when they came across my photo. When I went back to check the photo, I saw something I wasn’t ready for. There it was, the three letter word no one wants to be called – fat.
How to Deal
Some guy decided I wasn’t skinny enough to be on the Abercrombie Instagram handle or the internet, for that matter. And just to make things worse, another girl replied to his comment with “Apparently fat is fashion.” So now, not only had someone just flat out called me fat, but a second person (a female!) had added insult to injury.
At first, I didn’t know how to react. Do I cry? Do I reply back? Do I blast them both on the internet for being internet bullies and let other people rip them apart? That is assuming others didn’t feel the same as them. I looked at the photo over and over again, zooming in and out, analyzing the denim jumpsuit I was wearing to see what about the photo made someone take time out of their day to comment something so cruel.
I’m by no means skinny. I’m well aware I have curves. But I’m also petite. I’m a pretty tiny person with rather large boobs and I’ve always been “the small one”. But I haven’t taken care of myself… ever. I hate working out (so I don’t) and I eat like shit. So yeah, now that I’m 30 a lot of that is catching up to me. But up until recently, I didn’t care. I know my arms have cellulite and I know I’ve developed more curves where one doesn’t usually want them – stomach and love handles. But I was ok with all of it.
Because I’m petite (4’11”), I never had much of a “body” when I was younger. I always had boobs, but never a butt or hips to match. I used to wear children’s sizes in jeans up until college because I couldn’t fit into adult sizes. So when I started to develop curves, I loved it! Finally, a body to match my boobs lol. So my secondary response to this guy’s “fat” comment after I had dwelled on all of this… “So?”.
Who cares! Why the f*** does this person care if I am “fat”? So when it really came down to it, I guess I was upset that this person decided it was ok to decide who was “fat”. How dare this man not only make me question my own self-esteem but also for writing a comment that potentially could have affected thousands of other women. Not ok. It’s not ok to just call people “fat” no matter what size they are. Every(body) is beautiful. And imagine if we all walked around looking exactly the same, all the same size? How boring would that be? Our bodies wouldn’t be unique or special.
And then I became even more upset realizing that this probably wasn’t the first mean comment this guy has left on social media. This one person has probably affected several (maybe hundreds!) of other women and toyed with their self-esteem. What a guy, huh?
So my point of this super long rant is to love yourself and your body. If planning to make changes and adjustments to your body, do it for a healthier lifestyle and to take care of yourself – not to fit an image that someone else thinks you should be. There will always be bullies, but love yourself and let the negativity bounce right off of you. You’d be surprised how empowering it is to rise above that kind of negativity.
Also, I ultimately chose not to blast these two lovely individuals on social media. Because internet bullying of any kind is not ok – even if it is in retaliation for the greater good. Remember, hate does not drive out hate. I did, however, consider sending them both a boomerang of me stuffing my face with a burger lol. I finally just decided to let it go.
Peace and love. Out. ✌🏼