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Denim Jumpsuit and The Three Letter Word No One Wants to Hear

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Internet Bullies and A Denim Jumpsuit

What is it about social media that gives people the courage to voice a harsh opinion without any regard to the person in the image? I never understood why people felt the need to critique influencers or other people on the internet visibly for all to see. I see a lot of cruel comments on social media but I had yet to fall victim to internet bullying. That is until recently. I was pretty excited to share these images of this crazy good denim jumpsuit from Abercrombie & Fitch. I loved the lip color I had on and just the overall vibe of the photos (thanks to Beckley & Co.). So imagine my excitement when Abercrombie actually regrammed my image. I was ecstatic!

But someone on the internet didn’t share the same sentiment when they came across my photo. When I went back to check the photo, I saw something I wasn’t ready for. There it was, the three letter word no one wants to be called – fat.

How to Deal

Some guy decided I wasn’t skinny enough to be on the Abercrombie Instagram handle or the internet, for that matter. And just to make things worse, another girl replied to his comment with “Apparently fat is fashion.” So now, not only had someone just flat out called me fat, but a second person (a female!) had added insult to injury.

At first, I didn’t know how to react. Do I cry? Do I reply back? Do I blast them both on the internet for being internet bullies and let other people rip them apart? That is assuming others didn’t feel the same as them. I looked at the photo over and over again, zooming in and out, analyzing the denim jumpsuit I was wearing to see what about the photo made someone take time out of their day to comment something so cruel.

I’m by no means skinny. I’m well aware I have curves. But I’m also petite. I’m a pretty tiny person with rather large boobs and I’ve always been “the small one”. But I haven’t taken care of myself… ever. I hate working out (so I don’t) and I eat like shit. So yeah, now that I’m 30 a lot of that is catching up to me. But up until recently, I didn’t care. I know my arms have cellulite and I know I’ve developed more curves where one doesn’t usually want them – stomach and love handles. But I was ok with all of it.

Because I’m petite (4’11”), I never had much of a “body” when I was younger. I always had boobs, but never a butt or hips to match. I used to wear children’s sizes in jeans up until college because I couldn’t fit into adult sizes. So when I started to develop curves, I loved it! Finally, a body to match my boobs lol. So my secondary response to this guy’s “fat” comment after I had dwelled on all of this… “So?”.

Love Yourself

Who cares! Why the f*** does this person care if I am “fat”? So when it really came down to it, I guess I was upset that this person decided it was ok to decide who was “fat”. How dare this man not only make me question my own self-esteem but also for writing a comment that potentially could have affected thousands of other women. Not ok. It’s not ok to just call people “fat” no matter what size they are. Every(body) is beautiful. And imagine if we all walked around looking exactly the same, all the same size? How boring would that be? Our bodies wouldn’t be unique or special.

And then I became even more upset realizing that this probably wasn’t the first mean comment this guy has left on social media. This one person has probably affected several (maybe hundreds!) of other women and toyed with their self-esteem. What a guy, huh?

So my point of this super long rant is to love yourself and your body. If planning to make changes and adjustments to your body, do it for a healthier lifestyle and to take care of yourself – not to fit an image that someone else thinks you should be. There will always be bullies, but love yourself and let the negativity bounce right off of you. You’d be surprised how empowering it is to rise above that kind of negativity.

Also, I ultimately chose not to blast these two lovely individuals on social media. Because internet bullying of any kind is not ok – even if it is in retaliation for the greater good. Remember, hate does not drive out hate. I did, however, consider sending them both a boomerang of me stuffing my face with a burger lol. I finally just decided to let it go.

Peace and love. Out. ✌🏼


  • Elizabeth
    August 3, 2017 at 2:32 PM

    Bravo girly, bravo! I am just now reading this post and I can’t imagine how you felt and all the thoughts running, no not running, flying through your head! Call me old fashioned but I still am a firm believe of the saying “if you have nothing nice to say don’t say anything at all”. Yeah I follow lots of people on the internet and yeah I don’t always agree with their posts but do I have to leave a rude a** comment about it? No! When I see rude comments from people, who I often refer to as bystanders because they wouldn’t do the same in a real-life situation! I mean when we see someone wearing something we don’t like, or listening to something we don’t, do we go up to them and tell them off? No we don’t. So why not practice this behavior all around. Anyway, I can go on and on about this topic, I am just so happy to hear that in the end your confidence was the one who persisted! Your friend mrs__eli XoXo

  • Amanda
    July 11, 2017 at 10:44 AM

    Those people infuriate me! I can’t even tell you how many times I look at your pictures and think, “Dang! Wish that swimsuit looked like that on me!”, or “She looks gorgeous!” It’s a shame you had to go through it, but you’ve got the right attitude though to rise above their comments! See you soon!

    xo, Amanda
    http://www.aglamlifestyle.com

  • Denise
    July 10, 2017 at 10:03 PM

    Ruuuuude! You are gorgeous! Some people are really so ugly on the inside that they need to make other people feel like crap. Sucks to be them. im so in love with these photos though! I want that jumpsuit!

  • cookie75503
    July 10, 2017 at 1:56 PM

    Love your confidence

  • Brooke du jour
    July 10, 2017 at 12:14 PM

    Omgosh Jac these photos are stunning! Seriously they should be in a magazine!

    You are one hot piece of ass and I hate those internet trolls! My favorite line from Romy and Michele’s High School Reunion is seriously applicable here: “You’re a bad person with an ugly heart, and we don’t give a flying fuck what you think!”

    LOVE YOU!

    xx
    Brooke

  • Jenny
    July 10, 2017 at 11:19 AM

    Hi Jaclyn! Well let me just first say that you are NOT FAT! And I’m so sorry to hear that you had to deal with this -I’m glad you are over it and not letting it affect you. These pictures of you are beautiful and awesome! (I just recently discovered you and instagram) I love your style and you have given me inspiration. So keep doing what you do, xoxo